Snitching has always been a taboo topic in the black community. No matter how tight lip we all are taught to be, things change when your back is against the wall. What happens when a detective is in your face and is telling you that all you have to do is tell us “what they did” and you can go home? The offer is simply one too good to pass up. The face of snitching has now become Tekashi 69. This guy rolled on EVERYBODY. How can a culture so tight on snitching crumble so fast when the fire is held to their foot?
I watch a lot of crime shows. One in particular I love is on TvOne. It’s called “For My Man”. One common scenario that I keep seeing is when the woman is arrested, she is quite and has nothing to say. When the man she was protecting gets in the hot seat, he begins singing like a bird. Often times he throws her all the way under the bus. So now the question becomes are women more loyal than men? Can a woman keep her mouth shut and know not to snitch? Thinking about that made me think about my own relationship with my husband.
We have brushed across that topic of snitching before. I can safely admit I’ve done things that would require me to insist he keep his mouth shut if he is approached about it. I would hope our relationship is tight enough where he will not feel the need to tell on me, but there is that small whisper in the back of my mind that “he just might tell”. Then there is me. Snitching was strictly prohibited in my house. That was just not allowed. I took a couple punishments that I didn’t deserve. It wasn’t me. I wasn’t going to tell on my sisters or my friends so, I just kept my mouth shut. I’m confident in saying that I wouldn’t tell on my husband…EVER.
Is it really “EVER”?
What if it’s a situation like Tekashi’s? What if the detectives play me a tape of my husband plotting to kill me? Do I have the green light to tell what I know? Or what if he starts running his mouth first? Can I speak then? I guess first we have to establish just what snitching is.
According to the urban dictionary, snitching is when you tell on someone to get yourself out of trouble. It’s pretty clear cut. If giving information to the law will get you out the hot seat, you snitching. So would you snitch on your man? What would have to happen for you to tell? The next question then becomes are you willing to do time for your guy?
I’ve lived a life that required me to think about these things. I came to the realization that regardless of what is happening, jail could be the outcome. So if I’m doing things (which I don’t anymore) that could land me in jail, then I need to be prepared to do jail time regardless of what I’m there for. I can do my bid and keep my mouth shut. I’m always prepared for that. But everyone is not built that way.
Think about your relationship right now with your man. If the law came knocking right now, would you snitch on him to maintain your freedom or would you keep your mouth closed and let whatever has to happen…happen.