One of the hardest things for people to do is let go. It’s so very common to remember what was and confuse it for what is and what could be again. Remember that friend that got into a relationship with that special someone. Remember it was a world wind romance. Remember how happy they were. Then can you recall when things changed and you got the phone? Their special someone broke their heart and the relationship is not the same. They aren’t happy anymore. Your best advice is try and work it out, so they do. Then you notice things are getting worse so your advice changes. “Friend, it’s time to go”. But the friend doesn’t go. They stay and now you have to sit and watch how what was once a world wind romance is now the worse situation you’ve ever seen. It’s hard to watch this happen to your friend. Someone you admire and love. No matter what you say, they just won’t let go.
If you are familiar with professional football then you know something about the New York Giants. And if you know about the New York Giants, then you know about the great Eli Manning. The two time super bowl champion. The two time super bowl mvp. He was the king of football. He was our quaterback. The miracle maker. And then, he hits this slump and because we loved him so, we chalked it to “just a bad season”. Then that season followed with another bad season, then another, then another. At some point, those that celebrated Eli was now embarrassed to watch him take the field. Analyst and fans alike strongly suggested that it was time for Eli to just bow out, but he didn’t feel the same. You could see it and hear it in the interviews that he thought it was maybe the coaching, his receiving team, the defense not blocking for him. Everyone is to blame except him. We’ve come to this point that everyone is over Eli except Eli. When that happens, we see things like this. The once glorified NFL quarterback is now an afterthought. No one cares anymore.
What is it about the big red signs people love to ignore? Why can’t people just walk away on that high note? I wish I had the answers. One thing I know is letting go is never easy. In our minds we think things can get back to what it once was. Have we seen someone else reclaim or return to their “glory days”? I haven’t.
I like to look at things spiritually. I ask God to lead me down the paths He would have me to go. So many times I know I’ve dodged many bullets because I didn’t ignore the signs. I saw the smoke and knew there was a fire somewhere close. I’ve also ignore them before and the results were awful. I was in an abusive relationship, and instead of seeing the abuse as a sign to leave, I clung tighter hoping he’d change and things could get back to “normal”. Yeah, well things ended with me begging God for my life and Him sparing me despite His many efforts to turn me in a different direction.
The signs are always going to be there. There are signs that things are going good and signs to bail out. There are signs you get at work that it’s time to resign, there are signs that it’s time to fall back from certain friendships, and there are signs that you probably should go to the club tonight. Don’t ignore those signs. See them, take heed and know when to walk away. No one wants to go through that feeling of the “aftermath” of not listening to God when He tried to tell ya!